How to Train Your Mind and Break Free from Limiting Beliefs

It’s safe to say that this decade has been a sucker punch to the gut. You don’t need me to tell you that.

People are tired—bone tired. Some feel like they’re barely making it through the week. Others feel trapped on a hamster wheel. Their nervous systems are shot.

They don’t know exactly what they want, but they know they want something different. Some long for a rich, soulful life. Others just want respite from the darkness. They want to stop the endless cycles of anxiety, fear, and self-doubt. They want to touch something steady inside themselves—something that isn’t dictated by the outside world.

Your Mind is Always Listening—So What Are You Telling It?

When these conversations come up, I gently remind my clients of this truth:

Your subconscious mind does not have a sense of humor.

It takes everything you say at face value.

Your thoughts are not passive. They are instructions. And the more you think the same thoughts—especially if they are charged with strong emotions—the faster they solidify into reality.

This is why two people can experience almost the exact same event and have entirely different futures. It all comes down to how their mind interprets that event.

The Mind Learns Through Trauma—And Through Repetition

During my RTT training, I heard stories of how one moment in childhood can shape a lifetime.

A girl walked in on her father watching porn when she was 11. “I’d die if any man looked at me like that,” she thought. Her mind took that as a request. For the next decade, she starved herself, unconsciously ensuring she would never develop into the kind of woman who could be sexualized.

Another woman grew up hearing her father say that women who dressed a certain way deserved to be assaulted. Her subconscious decided that if men found her attractive, she would be unsafe. She gained weight as a protective mechanism, never connecting her shame to her body until years later.

The mind is brilliant. It creates beliefs to keep us safe in the moment—but those same beliefs can trap us later in life.

The mind learns through repetition and familiarity.

🔹 What is repeated becomes believable.

🔹 What is familiar becomes comfortable.

This is why people find themselves in the same toxic relationship dynamic over and over. It’s why available, kind partners feel “boring” while unavailable ones feel intoxicating. Familiarity = safety to the subconscious mind.

But familiar isn’t always healthy.

So, How Do You Retrain Your Mind?

The key is to interrupt and reframe outdated, limiting beliefs. Your mind will accept new, empowering beliefs if you repeat them often enough.

Here’s how:

JOURNAL DAILY—Write down your thoughts. Don’t filter. Just observe. What patterns emerge? Are your thoughts kind or critical? Are they keeping you small?

IDENTIFY BODY RESPONSES—Where do you feel limiting beliefs? Do your shoulders tense? Does your stomach clench? Do you brace for impact when you express your needs? Your body keeps score.

USE RAIN (Tara Brach’s Method)—

R: Recognize the thought/emotion.

A: Allow it to exist without judgment.

I: Investigate—Where did this belief come from? Who gave it to you?

N: Nurture—Replace it with self-compassion.

QUESTION YOUR BELIEFS (Byron Katie’s The Work)—

1. Is it true?

2. Can I absolutely know it’s true?

3. How do I react when I believe this thought?

4. Who would I be without this thought?

CREATE NEW THOUGHT PATHWAYS—

Your mind will believe whatever you tell it repeatedly. So tell it something better.

💭 Instead of “I’ll never be financially free,” say “I am learning how to create financial abundance.”

💭 Instead of “Love always hurts,” say “I am worthy of a healthy, fulfilling relationship.”

💭 Instead of “I can’t change,” say “My mind is adaptable, and I am growing every day.”

✨ LISTEN TO RTT AUDIO FOR 30 DAYS—

RTT rewires limiting beliefs at the subconscious level. The mind learns through repetition. The more you listen, the more these new beliefs become familiar—and what is familiar, the brain makes real.

Your Mind is Not the Enemy—It’s the Key

Your mind is not working against you. It has simply been following old instructions.

The good news? You can give it new ones.

The life you want isn’t out of reach.

It isn’t for “other people.”

It’s for you.

You just have to train your mind to believe it.