Why I’m Passionate About RTT

In 2021, my mother died unexpectedly. We had a complicated relationship.

During an RTT session, I realized something profound:

✨ I had spent my life chasing her love and approval.

✨ I wanted to be prioritized—but I never would be.

✨ I was stuck in a story that kept me disempowered.

For years, I focused on what my mother did to me.

I carried that story like a weight, reliving every moment that reinforced the belief:

“I am not enough. I am not worthy.”

But RTT helped me flip the story.

Instead of asking, “Why did this happen to me?” I started asking, “What did this teach me?”

And that shift changed everything.

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

We all have two versions of our story:

1️⃣ The story that happened to us (pain-focused, past-driven, disempowering).

2️⃣ The story that happened for us (growth-focused, transformative, liberating).

✨ One keeps us trapped.

✨ The other sets us free.

Here’s how both stories played out in my life—and why RTT helped me rewrite my narrative.

My Mother’s Story (The Wounds We Inherit)

My mother never felt loved or safe.

• She was born into poverty as the youngest of seven children.

• Her parents divorced when she was two and saw her as a financial burden.

• She was shuffled between relatives, never truly belonging.

• Her mother died of cancer when she was just 17—leaving her completely alone.

No one ever asked her: “What makes you happy?”

She was never taught that her needs mattered.

So she survived.

She built walls.

She became rigid, controlling, and emotionally distant.

And then she became a mother.

My Old Story: The One That Held Me Back

This was my experience of my mother:

❌ She was never emotionally available.

❌ She prioritized control over connection.

❌ I learned that being “good” meant being perfect, obedient, and emotionally invisible.

❌ I became hypervigilant, constantly scanning for danger.

❌ I felt like I had to earn love—and feared I could be replaced.

I internalized all of it.

💥 I believed I was inherently unlovable.

💥 I learned to keep myself small, agreeable, and non-threatening.

💥 I betrayed myself to maintain connection.

I repeated these patterns in my relationships:

• Choosing emotionally unavailable partners.

• Becoming a people-pleaser to avoid rejection.

• Sabotaging my own success out of fear of being “too much.”

Sound familiar?

This is what happens when we don’t question the stories we inherit.

How RTT Helped Me Break Free

RTT showed me that my story was not the truth. It was just a narrative shaped by my childhood experiences.

I saw my mother for who she really was:

💡 A deeply wounded person who never healed.

💡 A woman who projected her pain instead of processing it.

💡 Someone who wasn’t capable of giving what she never received.

And that realization changed me.

Because if I could understand why she was the way she was—

Then I could also understand that I was not broken, unlovable, or flawed.

I was simply carrying wounds that weren’t mine.

My New Story: The One That Set Me Free

Instead of focusing on what my mother didn’t give me, I started seeing the gifts she did.

🌿 She taught me to love art, literature, and culture.

🌿 She showed me how to be self-sufficient and resilient.

🌿 She gave me the spiritual foundation that still anchors me today.

🌿 She instilled in me a sense of justice, ethics, and integrity.

She was imperfect.

She was human.

And she did the best she could with what she had.

💡 I no longer need to chase love. I am enough.

💡 I no longer need to prove my worth. I already have it.

💡 I no longer seek validation. I validate myself.

This is the power of rewriting your story.

Healing Isn’t Just Awareness—It’s Action

✨ Knowing why you struggle isn’t enough.

✨ You have to rewire the way you respond to life.

RTT helped me:

✔️ Identify the subconscious beliefs holding me back.

✔️ Rewire my thought patterns so I could stop repeating old cycles.

✔️ Release the emotional weight of my past.

✔️ Step into a future where I belong to myself.

This is why I’m passionate about RTT.

This is why I do this work.

Because I know what it’s like to feel stuck in a story that’s not serving you.

And I also know what it’s like to finally be free.

Your Story Can Change, Too

If you resonate with this, ask yourself:

🔹 What story am I telling myself about my past?

🔹 Does this story empower me or keep me small?

🔹 Am I willing to let go of an identity that no longer serves me?

You are not your past.

You are not your trauma.

You are not your wounds.

You have the power to rewrite your story.

And if you’re ready to start that journey, RTT can help.

Final Thoughts: Healing Is a Choice

In her groundbreaking show Nanette, Hannah Gadsby said:

“As long as I tell this story, I’ll be stuck. I won’t heal.”

I made the choice to let go.

To step into a story that serves me.

To finally be free to live as my authentic self.

What choice will you make?

Here’s a short story by Portia Nelson called “There’s a Hole in the Sidewalk”.

It helped me.

I hope it resonates with you.